Sick of waiting for the perfect partner, Brittany Allyn vowed to stop depending on men to make her happy and decided to take herself on a solo honeymoon.
Allyn opened up about traveling to London in 2022 and froze her eggs before she booked her dream vacation to France and Italy.
According to the influencer, she has decided to put her dreams of being a mom on hold and is choosing to travel the world instead.
Allyn revealed that the required medicine did not work the first time she tried freezing her eggs. So, she decided to stop taking it.
“My body just wasn’t picking up the medicine correctly; my follicles were not growing, so after eight days, I had to stop,” said the influencer. “Hopefully, this spring and probably next fall too I’ll try freezing again, and so once I do that, I think I’m really going to have a lot of peace of mind.”
She has been living her best single life since then.
“I think everyone has days where they’re like, I want that, the deep romance – but mostly I don’t feel pressure to get married,” said Allyn in a Youtube video. “I heard this quote once that if you got married at 50 to the love of your life, you could be with this person for 30 years.”
She added, “My longest relationship was around five years, and that felt like forever, so 30 years to be with the love of your life makes me so happy; I’m not in a rush.”
The 37-year-old influencer revealed that her parents contributed immensely to her current outlook on life.
“I had really supportive parents, realists, and they’re just like, ‘Britt, we want you to experience everything in life to have so much fun,’” said Allyn.
According to Allyn, her parents told her how marriage could be amazing but also encouraged her to live her life to the fullest, “Marriage is amazing. Kids are amazing, but it’s not this perfect solution, and it’s really hard; not everyone gets a perfect marriage or, you know, perfect children.”
The influencer says she does not worry about societal pressures.
“My 20-year-old self was completely different; I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom,” confessed Allyn. “I was in love with a guy that I knew from high school, and I thought that ‘we are going to live in the same town and get married and have kids by 27 or 30’, and I would have some passion projects on the side.”
She continued, “but I was just going to be a mom and never leave Seattle, but at 25, we broke up, and I have gone in a completely different direction.”
After the breakup, Allyn realized that a honeymoon shouldn’t be just for married couples.
“There are so many places I wanted to go, but I was waiting for that perfect partner, the perfect relationship,” said Allyn. “South of France was one of them, and Venice, Italy, going on a gondola ride, going on an African safari; now that I am in my mid to late thirties, I’m like, wait, why am I waiting?”
Allyn posted her journey and experiences on social media to empower other single women.
“People really loved that content; I think I’ve probably had a thousand messages of women planning their own me-moons,” said Allyn. “It’s been really cool to know that’s inspired women to solo travel, and I would say you’re not going to regret it.”
She added, “It’s such an empowering feeling to know I was brave; I did this when I’m doing something for myself, you know, I’m an interesting person that wants to explore the world. When you’re on, it’s less scary – I’ve made some videos to hopefully help women go through all the nuances of solo travel, like dining alone.”